JY & Rachel Wedding

This is a super overdue post, me and B 仔had attend his best pal wedding on last year Nov. I actualli had upload the photo for long but keep waiting the photo from others to have complete post, I have no patient to wait anymore, jz let me finish the post the the church wedding photo.


Both newly wed is his very best frenz since secondary time, and only them never forget and appreciate B仔 despite he alway so passive for this friendship. They reali kind and cheerful gang.

B仔 first time join the brother gang, he was so worry before that as he alway heard how I tortured other wedding brother. Who know, the next day he came back and told me 'Sup sup water (just a piece of cake). We attended morning ceremony, church wedding and wedding dinner.

I love to attend church wedding as is very warm and touching ceremony, and the advice sharing by Pastor on how to managing marriage is very interesting, but this time the church wedding is abit lenghty and boring. I almost fall of sleep.

vowing session

This is the interesting part i meant, the Pastor this time given us few suggesstion if we want our marriage to stay eternal. Please DO NOT do these:

1. If you love me, you must know my needs!

We always assume that our partner already knew what we want, what we hope, how we feel. We assume they knew everything of us better than anyone. So when when they never do as what we like, given what we expect and care on our feel, than it will end with a very big dissapointment and of course fight/cold war.

I do agreed that is our partner duty to understand us well and care of us but if we did not share with them, did not tell them what you want, did not let them know what you feel...than how do you expect your "Kayu partner" will know that?

Communication is the crucial point, if you want to let them know what you need-Tell them nicely!

I knew guys sometime have the listening and memory problem, dun give up! Keep telling.

Base on reseach, if you want to remember something, you must keep telling for at least 6 times. So keeep repeat in different way in 6 times, so confirmed they will capture it well.

2. Every time is You (When complaining)

When we have any argument, below words will sure prompt up by words or in your mind. You ALWAYS, You EVERYTIME in a very frustate mood.

However this words will always perceive by another party as 'I never change, I am the person who torture you, you alway suffer (victim) and you are pointing the finger to each other'

Try to communicate in a constructive manner when there is a conflict, it will be better you could tell them what you expect them to do in next time rather than blaming each other.

3. Good! you must hear my advice (Motherily/fatherily manner)

Please la, you partner already under the monitoring of their parents for the past 20 or 30 years. When they get married, it mean they are adult and finally can enjoy his freedom. If you still expect them follow your instruction as their parent, must well he/she to be mummy boy/daddy girl.


3. Both of you must be always together and being possessive
You are mine so you cannot spend your time with others, we must do everything together All the time.
Ya, after married he/she is yours. It is good to plan and doing everthing together and sharing all the memories together. I agreed! that's reason we married.
But never overdoing it with possessive action like 'Never allow them atttend casual social gathering, not happy when they have their own gossip session with friends, Insist that he/she must be there with you eventhough he/she are damn busy'.
Come on la! they already willing to spend their balance of life with you, don't be stingy let them have some freedom.


4. If you will Appreciate,you will have the blessing marriage. Always giving thanks cause eternal blessing
Be grateful to whatever he/she did for you and your family
Eventhough they did not do it well enough, eventhough they did it unwillingly, eventhough they did it very late. But remember they still did it for You!!!
We always feel very touching and thanks to other ppl who help us or did small token to us but
Most of time, we tend to forget, tend to complain, tend to take it as good to our partner.
Start now, show your appreciation to them.
Thanks! I am so happy! I love it!-All these is such a simple words.
5. Love!It is purpose of life. However, the most important is that in pursuing it you become more gentle.
I believe, every of us heard this complaint from alot of old couple even our parent too that 'Last time he/she is not like that', 'Last time, they are so kind and soft to me'
Ya, many of us change alot when getting together long. We forget how to speak softly and gently assist them when they need. We just thought that since we already knew each other so well, need not to pretend..then started use the loud voice or throwing temper when communicate.

I read an article before, when we are in love there is 'No distance' btwn theheart. That the reason all the couple in love alway speak very soft yet they still can hear it.
(signal and reception are very clear and correct)
But when the distance of heart is getting wider, they will start to increase the voice when talking, sometime even shout! The scary distance make everyone start to getting fierce and higher the tone. And the more we shout, the distance is getting lagi wide.


If both couple can stop doing above point sincerely, high possible (not 100% guarantee)
You can be more loving as you grow old!

You know what? most of us will stare to our partner when we heard each point from the pastor with the OS 'Eiii, sound so familiar' 'Eiii, I think i was like the person he mentioned'

Henry aka B 仔frenz told us that he and the gf like hit all the point. lol!

I knew that eventhought I also far from those point, but at least i start working with it and improve better, I believe relationship is like business need to spend time and effort and is growing it in long term. Chayok! Chayok!

This is the happy newly wed

2 of them had experience alot of issues till now, they actually was couple during school time but too bad the relationship did not last long, they was just patch back less than 2 years only.
JY insit to held wedding this year bcoz he remember his promise to Rachel during school time puppy love 'I will marry you after 10 years later'. 2010 is the 10 year due date of his promise, he feel that is much meaningful it he can realise this promise.
Touching right?

Crystal aka Henry Fiance Seldom see my B仔 in charming look6 of them are the best pal for more than 10 year.

Very kind and interesting gang, love to mix with them when we back KL

I am back

I am sorrry that abandon my blog for so long, there are so much pending post.
Too busy last month coz rushing for staff appraisal and so ganjiong for my exam, cleaning my messy room and wardore before chinese new year.
Finally settle everything that fall sick again that ruin all my plan...
That was so long i nvr touch the lappie.

No matter how, I am active again! stay tune

Sickcat

Urrghhh, fall in sick again.
Non-stop vomitting, diarrhea and high fever make me so weak and almost fainted in clinic...
feeling body is getting old, just vomit and diarrhea can mk me dun even have energy to walk.

Mummy was soo worry about me, keep asking what to do as my face is so pale and i dun even have energy to respond. Thanks for the expired tea i drank, i deserved that! next time please check before put in anything into your mouth

Suprise X'mas Gift

My initial plan for walker count down party was cancelled, i thought i will be having boring X'mas.
Guan ying ma po pi, B仔 was sick and MC on that day. (I am not pray he sick hor, jz hope he can celebrate with me. I din curse him ok?)

After whole day rest, he is fit enuff to bring me for dinner. I was so glad that I need not stay at home for this eve.

We went for same place for our X'mas celebration last year-MOET Bistro
Eventhough they had shifted to bkt indah, but we still willing to travel so far as we miss the smoke duck .

New X'mas hairstyle

The new bistro is much more spacious but I still preferred the previous layout.

That nite too much walk in customers, end up we have to wait so long for our served.

Lets have a look our X'mas Menu

caesar salad


Mushroom soup *****
This is the first time I try their mushroom soup, suprisely the taste is so Great!
The garlic bread is crunchy with thick butter smell.
The soup in light texture and with sweet taste, I alway thought that mushroom soup must thick and cream enough to touch my tastebud.
This is our first time try such different mushroom soup. Thumbs up !!


BBQ Chicken wing-Snack Order

My Fav Smoked Duck breast
The duck smell like ham and very chewy, there is no any fishy duck smell

We thought that this is the special menu for X'mas, so we purposely went there jz for this.

Till that day then we realise this food is in their menu..so silly!

After i refresh back the last year X'mas photo, the food display is different then last year also. Maybe they do some adjustment for new shop.

Grilled Salmon-taste so so
Dessert time!

B仔 Posing with Tiramisu

Sweet Couple Camwhoring

The owner is touched that we still went there again, and after we told that we actually come for the smoke duck, he kept check with us whether he got let us down. We are his best support when the shop locate at Pelangi.

We actually like the food and the price is considered quite reasonable but the 'Location' is mk me down, too FAR and very jam area. If not, i can always dine there.

We reached home before 12am, after I change my pyjamas I received a suprise- No! I should say unexpected X'mas gift!

I PHONE 4!

I was planning to buy it for him bcoz my i phone 3Gs was from B仔 also, till now he still using the bulky nokia phone. He keep warn me do not buy him i phone, and he dun wish to have it!

Who know he purposely Q at the s'pore handphone shop early that day morning before he come back for doctor (Remember he is sick).

I was so happy!!! Is not bcoz i got new phone, Is bcoz I so wish he could have an i phone too, so we could text can call each other more frequent when he in s'pore. Is the i phone could connect us much closer. I could alway send him what I taken for my lunch, since is 'Free'

He said let me use the latest i-phone and he just use the 3GS (my old phone).

My heart was melted when hear that after i heard that. I am really a blessed lady...

How to get a partner who will just think of me when he afford for something better/good? How to get a partner who always put me as priority before himself? How to get a partner who always want to give me the best despite I always very calculative with him?

Even for me, both phone is having 95% same function but I still love it!

Thanks B仔, is not the present touched me, is your lovely heart that cheer my X'mas.

Merry Christmas & I love you!

Very different and meaningful Weekend

I had spend a very meaningful weekend with my beloved fiance. Suprise celebration for my best frenz (i will post it after i got the complete photo), attend family function, and realise a promise we given to each. Thanks Hubby to accompany for doing all this!

That was very long time we din have 2 person dinner, so we went for Warakuya Japense restaurant bcoz I din really taste the food during my B'day. Is so sweet that 2 of chatting non stop during the dinner and doing alot silly act

Sashimi

Chef recommended Pizza

Soft shell crab sushi

Love the pizza most

Chamwhore <3>

After our first visit to the orphange home, B仔 promise to me we will buy pressie for the angles as their X'mas gift. At first I was planning to buy some stationary or books for them but the PIC told me better not as they have alot this kind donation, she suggest me to buy some chips for them.

After cracking our head discuss with B仔, we decided to prepare a kids hamper that have alot candies and tibbits, we are sure all the kids will love it!

Sat morning, we headed to a grocery shop to bought the tibbits then headed home for the most important part- Gift Wrapping

I had to admitted that I had very little contribution for this part.

All the tibbits insert by me into the wrapping paper, was re-organised by B仔(not attractive to get kids attention)

All the wrapping paper stick by me, was re-stick back by B仔 (not tight enough)
All the Ribbon tied by me, was re-tied by B仔 (ribbon not in shape)

End up, I was jz helping to cut the tape and ribbon...and eat the tibbits.. lol :P

Tibbits for the hamper

So serious in organizing the tibbits & candies

He keep nagging to me, all hamper must have the same portion even the number of candies else the kids will fight for it!

Finally Done! Camwhore before we depart to the home

It was so tire, whole back is ache, we spend almost 2 hours to finished the wrapping

Next day morning, we bring the small gift to them. Few of them was not around bcoz they had follow their family member out, actually most of them have family member (single parents who unable to take care of them) and the are few pairs of siblings. The home also adopted non-chinese (Thailand)

The youngest is only 3 years old, very talkative (blues dress beside me)

Red Shirt guys called Ah Yan-Only downsyndrome guy, he din show any excitment expression when he got the gift but keep starring hamper and follow what other kids doing for the toys

Only this photo is allow as I dun wish to publish their face.

The angles are so disciplined, when they knew we are there for gift giving, immediately they Q up to prepare receive it. But I get them to sit down, is better that have close interaction in circle line. Kids keep bugging that could unwrapped the plastic and open the toy egg.

Actually we can felt that frustration of the Ai Xin mama ( Auntie take care of them) when the home was mess up with the toy and the kids was fighthing and refuse to start their lunch, but me and B仔 still buat tahu. Bcoz we feel is super worth it if we can see the angle smile and excitment when they receive the hamper. You know what? they are worry they din receive the same tibbits compare to other gangs, keep checking their hamper (what 'Someone' nagging is reali true)

The best thing is you can give them a short moment of hapiness. Of coz we did help to clean up and chase the kids go for lunch.

Even this time we have very limited interaction with the lovely angles but we had promise them to visit them again. I feel very happy that I reali did it for them and B仔 promise that we will do it more often. Even I only can give them very finite financial/ moral support, but I very glad that at least I still give them for what I could.

This normal kids are different to those downsyndrome kids i saw before, they knew what their background and I saw some even trying to avoid thier own parents when they came. Even they are young but they realise and sad that they do not have their own home, love and care is much more needed compare to others for them.

I hope this is jz a beginning and I could repeat it as my habit, I am reali reali very grateful I had B仔 support and do it together with me. :)

Belated B'day Celebration-Beloved Kakak

I was kept complaint my AEONer Malays frenz forget my B'day. Sakit Hati!!

Finally we met up during my training at KL last 2 weeks, TGIF-Pavilion.

We share share the food as they had eaten during thier break time

Kak Anis@ alway love to organize party and gathering
Me, Anis, Azie, Kak Felicia and Elsa.

Actually we had a very special celebration by Friday staffs but i still failed to load the video. I had great moment with them. And thank felicia who make me Wish come true!

p/s: I make a wish that Felicia will pay the bill when i before i blow the candle :P

Dun be Silly!!!

I think everyone of you had read the new of 22 young boy commit suicide just because he ws dumped by his gf.

It remind me the heart pain feeling i was suffer after being i break off by my secondary school bf and the unbearable period when i was being betray by my college bf. That time I kept asked myself how am I going to survive? How to live without them?Why he want to do that for me? How should I respond when I saw him with new gf? Should I beg him?
Whatever love song you listen, tears will dropped; Whatever love story you watch, will remind you and him. you will match you love story to whatever you saw, heard and felt.

However i never thought of end of my life bcoz for me it was a very unfilial to my parents who gave me thier best. Today i thought back what i did after break up, I was sooooo SILLY!!!!! is damn stupid.

Luckily that time i had my best frenz beside me, Hui wen, Pue Chu,Bernice, and the most important person is-Amelie. She always there to listen my repeated & repeated sad story to her, I still remember her innocent face when she listen my story, she passed me tissues when i cried. I am sure I wouldn't recover so fast if I don't have them, If I nvr thought of my family.

This heartbroken love make me growth, make me understand who is my best frenz, mk me understand what is love. I gained alot from my ex-bf, and thanks them I had my fiance.

If he suicide because he was being chase by family, or he was broke, or he plan to cheat the insurance claim for family, or he was suffered by critical illness...I still can accept.
It was damn stupid for the boy who leave their loved family just for the girls that not loved him anymore.

Please be strong if you experienced unhappy love relationship, trust me the better one is coming!
the more beautiful things in life a awaiting you upfront, time will let everything past. We have to go on and stay strong, for those people that love you, for better future...